Show appreciation for your nanny and household staff this holiday season.
Your nanny or household staff plays a vital role in your family’s daily life — providing care, consistency, and peace of mind all year long. The holidays are the perfect time to recognize their hard work and dedication with a thoughtful gesture of thanks.
Here’s what families need to know about holiday bonuses, gift ideas, and best practices to make this season meaningful for everyone.
Holiday Bonus Guidelines
Typical industry standard:
✅ 1–2 weeks of regular pay as a holiday bonus
Factors to consider:
- Length of service with your family
- Full-time vs. part-time schedule
- Performance and reliability
- Additional duties or flexibility throughout the year
If you’ve recently hired your nanny (less than 6 months ago), a smaller bonus paired with a thoughtful card or gift is appropriate.
Thoughtful Gift Ideas
Add a personal touch to your bonus with something meaningful.
✨ Handwritten note or card from you and the children
✨ Gift card to a favorite local spot (coffee, salon, spa, or restaurant)
✨ Self-care basket with cozy winter items
✨ Personalized keepsake (framed photo, ornament, or tote bag)
✨ Extra paid day off in January to recharge
✨ Travel contribution if family lives out of town
For Families with Multiple Staff Members
- Keep bonus amounts proportionate to roles and hours worked.
- Be consistent and transparent to avoid confusion or hurt feelings.
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Express appreciation individually — even small gestures make a big difference.
Should You Expect a Gift in Return?
No. Holiday giving is about showing your appreciation as an employer. Nannies and caregivers may offer a small card or craft from the children, but they are not expected to reciprocate financially.
If Your Nanny Seems Disappointed
Honest misunderstandings happen. Handle them with empathy:
- Don’t take it personally. Everyone’s expectations and experiences differ.
- Check in privately: “We really appreciate all you do — we hope you know how valued you are.”
- Use the moment as an opportunity for communication next year.
Open, thoughtful dialogue helps strengthen long-term trust and mutual respect.
Final Tip from Sue + Kellie
Whether you give a bonus, a gift, or both. What matters most is the gratitude behind the gesture.
When caregivers feel appreciated, it builds loyalty, consistency, and a positive relationship that benefits your entire household.